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Just Show Up–A Book Review

Just Show Up

“Most often it’s those who come without answers or agendas who are the most helpful.”

Just. Show. Up.

Sometimes we just need someone to “be”. We don’t need them to solve our problems. We don’t need them to out “do” someone else. We just need THEM.

I started reading Just Show Up with a lump in my throat. I knew it was about cancer and friendship–and I wasn’t sure I could handle the emotion of it. But, I had promised Jill I would read her special gift–the book she wrote with her now Heavenly sister-friend. So, I dove in, ready for whatever she had in store for me.

I wrote down some quotes as I read:

“Showing up in suffering benefits both sides, and it has to be entered in from both sides.”

“Fear is a lonely companion.”

“Grace is the glue that holds relationships together as we walk through suffering with one another.”

I had a friend suffer through an agonizing battle with cancer. She finally won the battle when she went home with her Savior. Guilt took root inside my heart during her fight as I felt like I wasn’t “showing up” the way I thought I was supposed to. I didn’t feel I gave her what she needed from me. I wasn’t “that” person. But, after allowing the words in Just Show Up to sink in–really SINK IN–I realized I did show up. I showed up in the way I was gifted. I showed up in the way I knew how. I did what I do well. And, looking back, I realize that she had a community of women surrounding her. Each of those women had a special gift, a way they showed up. Together, we walked the journey with her.

Just Show Up speaks from the heart of Kara Tippetts as she goes through her hard journey and from the hearts of the women who came around her to support her and each other as they worked toward one purpose–Showing Up. Jill gives practical advice on what to say and what not to say when people are hurting as well as how to do what you do well and allow others to do their “thing”.

Just when I thought my heart couldn’t take anymore, Jill would throw in little bits of humor. (I loved that by the way.) I totally could relate when she said, “I’m an introvert (text, don’t call) and I prefer to enjoy my misery alone.” GUILTY!  Seriously though, it reminded me that we all deal with hurt and pain in different ways and we need to be open to it. God made us all unique for a reason!

I began the journey with Jill and Kara with a lump in my throat, cautious of where they were going to take me. I laughed here and there and (I have to admit) I cried in the end. This book was healing to my heart.

Just Show Up. It’s about Community. It’s about Friendship. It’s about women loving women. It’s about BEING.

About the Authors

The late Kara Tippetts was the author of The Hardest Peace and blogged faithfully at mundanefaithfulness.com. Cancer was only a part of Kara’s story. Her real fight was to truly live while facing a crushing reality. Since her death in March 2015, her husband, Jason, is parenting their four children and leading the church they founded in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

Jill Lynn Buteyn is the author of Falling for Texas, an inspirational novel, and a recipient of the ACFW Genesis Award for her fiction work. She has a bachelor’s degree in communications from Bethel University. Jill lives near the beautiful Rocky Mountains with her husband and two children. Connect with her on social media and at Jill-Lynn.com.

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Hello! I’m Lisa

Recently, I wrote a blog for Destination Amish. I was asked to be a regular contributor for them, so I thought I’d better start by introducing myself. The though struck me that I’ve never really done that here (introduce myself). So, here you go!

“I thought I’d take this opportunity to introduce myself.

So—Hello! I’m Lisa! :)

I’m not Amish. I have never been Amish. I’ve never lived with the Amish. I do have friends who were once Amish, lived with the Amish, and who work with the Amish. But, since their experiences don’t give me any authority on the subject, you will never see me write about—the Amish.

I come from a family of ministers-men and women-on both sides of my dad’s family and at least one side of my mom’s family. My father is a minister, so I am one of those “preacher’s kids”. And, I was a pretty typical one. Dad’s “job” moved us around a lot. We moved from OH to PA to CA (Los Angeles) to MO all in three years’ time. That time happened to be middle school which is not an ideal age for change in a hormonal girl’s life.”

Read the rest of the story here:

http://destinationamish.com/hello-im-lisa/

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The Best Friend

Do you ever feel like God is far away? Do you wonder why you don’t feel a connection to him?

Let me ask you, are you a God-worshipper?

Do you spend time each day in his presence?

Are you taking time to thank him for BEING: for being holy, righteous, all-knowing, all-powerful, the King of kings, the Ruler of the universe, Master of everything, and the Beginning and the End?

Worship Him. Give Him your time.

Friendship with God comes with the worship of God. He talks and walks with those who spend their time with Him in worship.

Just as a human friendship takes time, commitment, and relationship, so does a friendship with God. He desires time with you. He desires closeness with you. Begin a new relationship today…Start with saying, “Thank you…”

Psalm 25:14 MSG God-friendship is for God-worshipers; they are the ones He confides in.

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The Why Season and Sarah

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It’s through the Why Seasons we really grow. I’ve talked about going through the “why times” before…the times that make no sense. The times that are painful. The times with only questions and no answers. These are the times that stretch us. Remember the Stretch Armstrong dolls? That’s how I felt during my longest why time. Just when I thought I couldn’t stretch any further, another tug would come.

I’ve already discussed what I went through to some degree and that is not my purpose today.  Today my purpose is to share what can come from the Why Season.

During that time, I went through a period of sleeplessness…an entire week, in fact. It was me, God, the Bible, and the Hallmark Channel. One day, I decided  to see if my mother-in-law, Geri, had any books I could read. I figured I may as well make the time useful. She told me what genres she had; one being Amish.

Amish. That just sounded peaceful.

I began reading some Amish novels and found I really enjoyed them. A couple of months later, I began looking for new Amish authors to read on my Kindle. (love my Kindle). It was during this search that I found Sarah Price. I fell in love with her writing. I began following her on Facebook and on her website, reading everything I could find. I was actually waiting for her new novel to come out, but it kept being delayed.

I was so frustrated! I wanted to read that book so badly.

In the meantime, she had suggested a book club in one of her books, The Whoopie Pie Book Club. I joined, and there I found some of the most beautiful people. It’s amazing how people you’ve never physically met can minister to you. I also made a disturbing discovery. My favorite author had cancer. This was the reason the book had been delayed!

Through the book club, I discovered Pink Umbrellas, which Sarah began as a cancer support group. Busy girl, this Sarah Price!

As I began to interact with my new friends, I was also finding healing. Do you realize that relationships can help mend your heart and mind? I was even able to chat with Sarah in the book club. I could not believe an author would take the time to actually get to know her readers.

One day, I got a private message from…SARAH PRICE…and I received a friend request. I was so excited! I messaged my Auntie Marilyn and my cousin, Nicole. She asked if we knew each other as little girls. (um, no…) Then she asked if we played together on a little red wagon. (ummm, again, no…)  Well, we didn’t know each other from the past. However, that began a special friendship. Sarah is one of these people that can make everyone feel special. The thing is, she had no way of knowing how badly I needed someone to step into my life and show me my value. Do you know God can use others to show us how much He values us? 

Without knowing me, Sarah Price followed God’s leading and took a huge risk. Not only did she befriend me, she chose me to write a devotional with her…her first devotional. Me. An unknown. Me. A lost girl coming out of a deep Why Season. God began showing me, why.

God had plans for me! God wanted to use me! Me! God loved me and He sent Sarah to me (or He sent me to her, I’m not sure which!).

That time of stretching…why had I gone through it? God wanted me to FEEL. Do you know it’s hard to help others if you can’t feel what they feel?

Sarah Price has been a beautiful gift to me. We have laughed, cried, and laughed some more. I’ve learned so many lessons from her, and I’m still learning today. Literally. Today she taught me another life lesson.

The purpose of my blog today is twofold. I want you to know that the Why Seasons are difficult, but so worth it. The lessons learned during those times are invaluable. I also want to share with you one of my most precious gifts: my friend, my sister, Sarah. God spoke to her regarding me. She could have said, “No”. Most people would have told God He was crazy. But, she trusted Him enough to trust me.

(Love you my LRWF)

Jeremiah 29:11 NIV For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Proverbs 27:9 ESV Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 ESV Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!

 

 

 

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We All Need Someone

1 Samuel 18:1-3 ESV 1 As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. 2 And Saul took him that day and would not let him return to his father’s house. 3 Then Jonathan made a covenant with David, because he loved him as his own soul.

God is so good. Say that with me, “God is SO GOOD”!

How many of you know that God loves you more than you could possibly imagine? He does! He cares about every part of your life, from the major events to the smallest concerns. Isn’t that an incredible thought?

I had a conversation with one of my sister-friends this morning. And, she reminded me (unintentionally) of the goodness and importance of friends.

You know, sometimes we just don’t have what we need naturally. What I mean is, perhaps our family doesn’t provide that emotional nourishment we need.

2013 was my Year of Relationships. God saw my need…my desire…for people that I could invest in AND who would invest in me.

This scripture talks about David and Jonathan. Notice how they were instantly bonded. This wasn’t a friendship that had been in the works for years. They met and souls united.

Friends are one of the sweetest blessings God created for us. I have several friends who I instantly knew I could trust and pour myself into. Some of them I haven’t even seen in person! But, we have kindred spirits and I consider them part of my family…some even closer than family.

Are you feeling lonely?

Pray and ask your Father to bring a special friend into your life. (Remember, it does take some work on your part.) Be willing to trust. Be willing to care. Be willing to share.

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